It will keep you afloat and moving in 2021.
You can choose to leave it on the beach for now or you can grab it with both hands, your choice.
As you move along in 2021, you will encounter driftwood and debris from 2020 and before. It will come in all shapes and sizes;
Your lifebuoy will help you navigate around and away from it.
If you take the time to look, you will see the beauty and the Joy surrounding you.
It is not disguised although the driftwood and debris can make it difficult to see clearly.
It looks like this
At times it will be a challenge to avoid the debris, and that's ok.
When you feel overwhelmed by it all, I offer a hand of support
Remember, you will enjoy the journey better if you talk, share, smile, and laugh together. Together we share strength and hope.
May you, your family and friends be Blessed With an Awesome Year Ahead.
Live, Love & Laugh!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
There is so much information out there, I don't know about you, however; I feel that it's utterly overwhelming at times.
How do we make sense of any of it?
When I am looking for advice...what constitutes an expert?
How do I manage to reconcile what seems logical to me with information and / or recommendations from the powers that be or the experts, which does not seem logical to me?
All of these questions have been going round and round in my head at various times in the last few months (well, to be honest, probably all of my life!)
I have a very clear and simple way to get myself out of the overwhelm state and clarify what is the right thing for me.
It´s called Free Flo Living.
Now I am not saying that it always works first time, or that I always go to it right away.
There are times where, it seems, I like to torture myself a bit, you know, amp up the stress, feed the fear monkey. Anyone empathise with that?
Over the years, though, I have worked at finding out what works for me. I had to, or in all honesty, I would not be sitting here writing this.
What I have discovered is that I am " my expert", YOU are "your expert".
We all know instinctively what is true for us / right for us.
We have an inner knowing that many do not trust because over time it has been contradicted and over-powered by our environment.
We are born with this powerful tool and from our early years are taught to ignore it in favour of people who know better/more than us and, we are told, know better.
Babies come into this world and they are love.
They let us know what they want, when they are happy and when they are not, and they cannot talk yet!
They are the centre of the universe, theirs and the people around them.
Normally, no one judges a baby; no one has any expectations of a baby (except that he/she will sleep, eat, cry, and poop!) There may be expectations of responsibility on the parents but not on the baby.
Then the baby becomes an infant/toddler, and that is when the judgments and expectations begin. There are growth and development markers to meet. Parents feel under pressure and that transfers to the infant/toddler.
Oh yes, and then the infant/toddler grows into a child, and there are even more influences in their environment. School, religion, new friends of their own.
As the child becomes a teenager, the environment changes again, and there are even more influences.
They are now aware of independence, responsibility
and choices and oh, it was so much simpler to be a baby, wasn´t it.
And here we are , all grown up, adults. How did that happen so quickly?
We have control over our own life, don´t we?
We can do whatever we want, can´t we?
Why then do so many people (grown-ups) feel limited, unfulfilled, and unhappy?
Why do so many people feel as though they have no choice and no control?
Simply put, because we do not connect to that inner knowing, we do do not allow ourself to trust that we know best, that we are our own expert.
We all need love, support and connection.
We all need to be able to get advice and knowledge from different perspectives, its how we figure out what works for us.
No one knows everything, and yet, we all know everything; everything that we need to know. We know what makes us happy and what does not.
There are things that happen to us and around us that we have no control over BUT we always have control over how we feel; how we react and respond to anyone and everything.
When you decide to make how you feel the most important thing in your life, you take responsibility; you have response-ability; you be come response-able.
Changes happen when we connect to how we feel and then take 100% responsibility for it.
Take yourself from victim to victor.
Would you like to know more about Free Flo Living? Find out here.
Is this Fear or Excitement?
Feeling excitement is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Excitement is predictable fear.
What is fear? What is excitement?
Is it fear or excitement?
Emotion: a strong feeling
E-motion: energy in motion
Excitement is predictable fear.
Pretty much the same physiological process is at work in your body during excitement or fear except, when you are excited it activates the reward centre of your brain at the same time.
Everything that you feel is emotion (or E-motion) . What does that mean?
The Latin derivative for the word emotion, emotere, literally means energy in motion.
You were born with a sixth sense–emotion.
Like your other five senses, this is not something you learned; emotion is the awareness you have which communicates satisfaction or dissatisfaction/ease or dis-ease.
Pivot point: Your emotions are your unique internal guidance system (Inner GPS), letting you know when you have disconnected from your inner knowing of what is right for you.
Picture this scenario:
A child is visiting the fairground for the first time. All around him, he sees these incredible rides. It is so new and exciting. They get to the big wheel; it looks enormous. It is going round and round so fast. It is very high. All those people looking down on him seem so far away. As they approach the ticket gate, he feels something in his belly, a strange feeling. It is a strong feeling, different from anything he has ever felt in his 5 young years.
His mother, sensing the change in him, grips his hand tighter and says it’s ok, don’t feel scared. I am right by your side. I am keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m scared. So, this is how fear feels.
Another child is standing close by. He has the same sensations and feelings when he is looking at this gigantic wheel. His mother senses the change in him too, and as he grasps her hand, she looks at him and says, this is going to be so exciting for you, a new experience, and I am right by your side, keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m excited. So, this is what it feels like to be excited.
Both these children will have a unique experience during the ride, and they will associate the feeling they have in different ways throughout their life.
This example may seem too simplistic for many of you. Yet when you understand how your feelings and emotions affect your body, you can see that this kind of experience, especially as a child, can have a profound effect on your life.
Pivot point: Feeling excited is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Are you killing the thrill?
If you would like to discuss it, feel free to contact me here.
Think for a minute. When you cut yourself, do you worry that it will keep bleeding out and not heal? Usually, the answer to that will be no-we know that in a healthy body, the blood will clot and the cut will heal.
When you break a bone, sometimes you need to have it "set" so it heals properly. The doctor will align the bone to make sure it knits together optimally, but the body does the healing. If you leave the bone misaligned, it will still knit together and heal.
The trick is to know when you need to give your body a bit of help.
Some of the times when you need to help your body are:
In a nutshell, what happens is whenever you get some kind of attack your immune system kicks in to defend you. It has three lines of defence (soldiers) that keep your body safe. Your body is very clever.
In daily life there are so many things that we encounter, see, hear and even say that make us feel uneasy. They just don´t sit right with us.
One of the most valuable assets you have is to look at things differently, from a new angle. Reframe it. Shift the perception, and your perspective will change. You then see the broader picture. Reframing takes a conscious intention to look at things in another way, and then the possibilities are endless!
When you understand that how you feel about anything has an emotional connection, which influences the way you react, you can change the way you feel instantly.
And the most important thing at any time is-how you feel!
How you feel is where your power lies.
Have you ever seen a picture you liked but thought it would look better in a different frame? The same thing happens when you put your thoughts in a new frame. They may remain the same, but you change the perception and the perspective, which changes the way you feel. These thoughts are yours, and you are the one who has given them meaning, so you are the one with the power to change them.
Pivot Point:-There is always another way of looking at the world
Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could control everything happening around you?
Well, I have news for you, that will never happen, but, I have even better news for you - you can always control how you react (re-act) to whatever is happening to you and around you.
You can change the way you feel about it, and this will change the way you think and behave.
You have a choice, and it is your responsibility to yourself to recognise your
response-Ability and become response-Able.
There is always a choice.
The emotions you feel, lead to thoughts which are often things you are remembering from past experiences. If it is a good memory, and you like it, that's great, keep doing it and it will lead to more good-feeling thoughts and experiences.
Have you ever had a message on your phone or computer saying "Updates available - restart now to install" ? If you do not install the update, you risk your computer crashing. What are you going to do? The answer for most of us is simple, install the update, and our computer continues to run proficiently. Your subconscious belief system can be compared to your computer programs.
The emotions you are experiencing, along with the thoughts you are thinking, are often old beliefs (programs running) based on the past that no longer works for you- now. When you take the time to notice them, you can update those beliefs (programs) with your new points of view. You do not need to review the old beliefs; you just have to recognise that it is an old belief and update or overwrite it. The more often you do this, the easier it will get, and before you know it, you will find yourself no longer re-acting and re-activating those beliefs. You are then response-able and have response-ability.
Catch yourself in the thought; it may be something like:
Be kind to yourself.
And, if all else fails - repeat to yourself-
“This too will pass.”
If you would like to talk further let me know!
Qualified General Nurse
Certified Practioner Level IV
Emotion Code Certified
Certified Life Coach