What is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
If you look up the meaning of self-awareness, it says - "conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings." It says nothing about how to deal with it when you dislike what you become aware of.
In today's world, I believe that self-awareness is recognising how you feel and accepting that you are the only one who can change it.
To grow, you must accept 100% responsibility, and then you can take back your power. If you do not know yourself, your beliefs, your dreams, your strengths, and your weaknesses, you cannot do that. When you have access to how you feel on an emotional level and recognise how it affects your beliefs and therefore your actions, it is transformational.
As a life coach, the greatest gift we offer our clients is the space, encouragement, and support to find the connection to their emotions. We can then support self-awareness and self-empowerment.
Too often self-awareness advocates focus on looking inward and ignoring the external environment.
It is important to acknowledge both internal and external awareness because self-awareness encompasses both.
When you begin your journey into awareness and take stock of how you feel about your situations and environment, it opens you up to so many things that you did not notice before. Using your five senses to experience fully how the environment you see, hear, smell, touch, and taste translates internally to your sixth sense (your emotions) is the key to self-awareness. Taking this holistic view allows you to connect to self-awareness and relate to your situations and environment, knowing what is right for you, and how to deal with what you feel is not right for you.
Connecting to every experience and every situation and then looking inward to your feelings, your beliefs, and then your reactions to your world enable true self-awareness. By making how you feel your number 1 priority, no matter what, you become truly self-aware.
The road to self-awareness leads to letting go of all self-judgements and self-expectations; it means giving yourself a break, in the same way you would for a friend or loved one, be kind to yourself, and accept who you are, warts and all.
Many people believe they are more self-aware than they are because they find it challenging to be honest with themselves. It's easier to ignore those feelings of guilt, shame, and unworthiness than to look deep inside and take responsibility for them. The best way to develop self-awareness is to take time to connect to how you feel and accept that it's ok to feel whatever it is and it's also ok to change it when you are ready. When you become adept at connecting to your inner emotional state, you may find there are many times when you dislike what you feel, you then have the power to change it.
Look at your beliefs, your strengths, and your weaknesses. If you are self-aware, you will instinctively know how you feel about anything and if it is right for you. You, and only you, know what you need, what will work for you, and what will not.
When you are undecided it is ok for you to pause and connect to that inner knowing, then to choose if, and when the right time is for you.
So, what is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
It is connecting to how you feel and being ok with whatever that is in the knowledge that you have control. We become empowered.
Whatever you are doing today, enjoy, have fun, and feel good!
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Have you ever thought about how your body communicates with you?
Are you even aware that your body communicates with you?
Do you listen?
If you have then you may have realised that it is through your e-motions which then create feelings or sensations that flow through you. Sometimes we ignore these feelings, push them aside to deal with later or not at all.
So what happens in our body when we feel “good” ?
Just close your eyes and think about it now….think about something that you love to do, someone who you love, or remember a time when you were truly happy……..that feels wonderful doesn’t it?
Your body tingles, it feels alive, open and flowing.
This is our natural state.
When we are in this state we attract all the good things into our life. This is when our body can function at its optimum and maintain health.
When we feel “good” everything around us seems to be good.
We look at things from a happy, connected point of view.
What happens in our body when we feel “bad”?
Just for a minute, we wont let the momentum build up, think about something that makes you feel sad, angry, scared or resentful….. now, that doesn't feel so good does it?
How does your body feel now?
Heavy? shut down?
When we allow these negative feelings into our body we stop the flow, we stop the natural rhythm and halt the body’s natural functions.
We find that when we feel “bad” nothing seems to go right for us.
We look at things from a conflicting, disconnected point of view.
What is your usual state?
Lots of us find that we get drawn into the negativity around us on a daily basis.
We read the newspapers, watch the news several times a day, spend time on social media sites looking at posts telling us about all the things we ought to be afraid of, or spend time in the company of people who complain a lot.
How to avoid these situations.
We can’t be happy and feel good all the time, can we?
That’s up to us. We have a choice in everything.
Even in the worst situations we can, if we choose, find something to make us feel better about it all.
It’s our choice.
That may sound flippant to some of you as we all have sad or challenging things that occur in our life.
I am NOT saying that you will not feel bad about them. What I am saying is that if you choose to hold on to the bad feeling it will become easier to feel bad about other things around you
…..whatever it takes
LET IT GO!
find something, ANYTHING that makes you feel even just a little bit grateful, appreciative or joyful and focus on it until that feeling grows.
My challenge to those of you who are up for it is to notice what your body is telling you.
Over the next week notice how you react to different people and situations.
Do you spend more time in a heavy body or a light body?
What feels better to you?
Let me know how you get on, and remember…. you always have a choice!
If you would like to know more please feel free to contact me here.
If anyone had asked me about the "C" word in 2019, I would have replied that I did not use that word, and please do not use it in my company. Today in 2021, I say the same even though I know it's not the same word they referred to in 2019, and it is the hot topic in all conversations, therefore unavoidable most days, so I had to find a way to live with it and stay sane and healthy.
The thing about the "C" word is that it causes so much anxiety, defensiveness, separation, and hopelessness in so many. This, in turn, leads to tension and stress.
When medical research estimates as much as 90 percent of illness and disease is stress-related, it makes sense to avoid unnecessary stress.
How to do that in today's environment?
What if there was a way?
What if I told you that you had all the tools you needed to relieve and redress stress?
You were born with these tools.
You do not need to go out and buy them.
All you have to do is identify them, access them, and unleash them.
Would you want to know more?
Find out how free flo living can help you to to restore your body´s natural equilibrium -leading to optimal health & wellness.
Contact me here.
Or read my new book Redress Stress http://getbook.at/Redress-stress
It will keep you afloat and moving in 2021.
You can choose to leave it on the beach for now or you can grab it with both hands, your choice.
As you move along in 2021, you will encounter driftwood and debris from 2020 and before. It will come in all shapes and sizes;
Your lifebuoy will help you navigate around and away from it.
If you take the time to look, you will see the beauty and the Joy surrounding you.
It is not disguised although the driftwood and debris can make it difficult to see clearly.
It looks like this
At times it will be a challenge to avoid the debris, and that's ok.
When you feel overwhelmed by it all, I offer a hand of support
Remember, you will enjoy the journey better if you talk, share, smile, and laugh together. Together we share strength and hope.
May you, your family and friends be Blessed With an Awesome Year Ahead.
Live, Love & Laugh!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
There is so much information out there, I don't know about you, however; I feel that it's utterly overwhelming at times.
How do we make sense of any of it?
When I am looking for advice...what constitutes an expert?
How do I manage to reconcile what seems logical to me with information and / or recommendations from the powers that be or the experts, which does not seem logical to me?
All of these questions have been going round and round in my head at various times in the last few months (well, to be honest, probably all of my life!)
I have a very clear and simple way to get myself out of the overwhelm state and clarify what is the right thing for me.
It´s called Free Flo Living.
Now I am not saying that it always works first time, or that I always go to it right away.
There are times where, it seems, I like to torture myself a bit, you know, amp up the stress, feed the fear monkey. Anyone empathise with that?
Over the years, though, I have worked at finding out what works for me. I had to, or in all honesty, I would not be sitting here writing this.
What I have discovered is that I am " my expert", YOU are "your expert".
We all know instinctively what is true for us / right for us.
We have an inner knowing that many do not trust because over time it has been contradicted and over-powered by our environment.
We are born with this powerful tool and from our early years are taught to ignore it in favour of people who know better/more than us and, we are told, know better.
Babies come into this world and they are love.
They let us know what they want, when they are happy and when they are not, and they cannot talk yet!
They are the centre of the universe, theirs and the people around them.
Normally, no one judges a baby; no one has any expectations of a baby (except that he/she will sleep, eat, cry, and poop!) There may be expectations of responsibility on the parents but not on the baby.
Then the baby becomes an infant/toddler, and that is when the judgments and expectations begin. There are growth and development markers to meet. Parents feel under pressure and that transfers to the infant/toddler.
Oh yes, and then the infant/toddler grows into a child, and there are even more influences in their environment. School, religion, new friends of their own.
As the child becomes a teenager, the environment changes again, and there are even more influences.
They are now aware of independence, responsibility
and choices and oh, it was so much simpler to be a baby, wasn´t it.
And here we are , all grown up, adults. How did that happen so quickly?
We have control over our own life, don´t we?
We can do whatever we want, can´t we?
Why then do so many people (grown-ups) feel limited, unfulfilled, and unhappy?
Why do so many people feel as though they have no choice and no control?
Simply put, because we do not connect to that inner knowing, we do do not allow ourself to trust that we know best, that we are our own expert.
We all need love, support and connection.
We all need to be able to get advice and knowledge from different perspectives, its how we figure out what works for us.
No one knows everything, and yet, we all know everything; everything that we need to know. We know what makes us happy and what does not.
There are things that happen to us and around us that we have no control over BUT we always have control over how we feel; how we react and respond to anyone and everything.
When you decide to make how you feel the most important thing in your life, you take responsibility; you have response-ability; you be come response-able.
Changes happen when we connect to how we feel and then take 100% responsibility for it.
Take yourself from victim to victor.
Would you like to know more about Free Flo Living? Find out here.
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