It will keep you afloat and moving in 2021.
You can choose to leave it on the beach for now or you can grab it with both hands, your choice.
As you move along in 2021, you will encounter driftwood and debris from 2020 and before. It will come in all shapes and sizes;
Your lifebuoy will help you navigate around and away from it.
If you take the time to look, you will see the beauty and the Joy surrounding you.
It is not disguised although the driftwood and debris can make it difficult to see clearly.
It looks like this
At times it will be a challenge to avoid the debris, and that's ok.
When you feel overwhelmed by it all, I offer a hand of support
Remember, you will enjoy the journey better if you talk, share, smile, and laugh together. Together we share strength and hope.
May you, your family and friends be Blessed With an Awesome Year Ahead.
Live, Love & Laugh!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
There is so much information out there, I don't know about you, however; I feel that it's utterly overwhelming at times.
How do we make sense of any of it?
When I am looking for advice...what constitutes an expert?
How do I manage to reconcile what seems logical to me with information and / or recommendations from the powers that be or the experts, which does not seem logical to me?
All of these questions have been going round and round in my head at various times in the last few months (well, to be honest, probably all of my life!)
I have a very clear and simple way to get myself out of the overwhelm state and clarify what is the right thing for me.
It´s called Free Flo Living.
Now I am not saying that it always works first time, or that I always go to it right away.
There are times where, it seems, I like to torture myself a bit, you know, amp up the stress, feed the fear monkey. Anyone empathise with that?
Over the years, though, I have worked at finding out what works for me. I had to, or in all honesty, I would not be sitting here writing this.
What I have discovered is that I am " my expert", YOU are "your expert".
We all know instinctively what is true for us / right for us.
We have an inner knowing that many do not trust because over time it has been contradicted and over-powered by our environment.
We are born with this powerful tool and from our early years are taught to ignore it in favour of people who know better/more than us and, we are told, know better.
Babies come into this world and they are love.
They let us know what they want, when they are happy and when they are not, and they cannot talk yet!
They are the centre of the universe, theirs and the people around them.
Normally, no one judges a baby; no one has any expectations of a baby (except that he/she will sleep, eat, cry, and poop!) There may be expectations of responsibility on the parents but not on the baby.
Then the baby becomes an infant/toddler, and that is when the judgments and expectations begin. There are growth and development markers to meet. Parents feel under pressure and that transfers to the infant/toddler.
Oh yes, and then the infant/toddler grows into a child, and there are even more influences in their environment. School, religion, new friends of their own.
As the child becomes a teenager, the environment changes again, and there are even more influences.
They are now aware of independence, responsibility
and choices and oh, it was so much simpler to be a baby, wasn´t it.
And here we are , all grown up, adults. How did that happen so quickly?
We have control over our own life, don´t we?
We can do whatever we want, can´t we?
Why then do so many people (grown-ups) feel limited, unfulfilled, and unhappy?
Why do so many people feel as though they have no choice and no control?
Simply put, because we do not connect to that inner knowing, we do do not allow ourself to trust that we know best, that we are our own expert.
We all need love, support and connection.
We all need to be able to get advice and knowledge from different perspectives, its how we figure out what works for us.
No one knows everything, and yet, we all know everything; everything that we need to know. We know what makes us happy and what does not.
There are things that happen to us and around us that we have no control over BUT we always have control over how we feel; how we react and respond to anyone and everything.
When you decide to make how you feel the most important thing in your life, you take responsibility; you have response-ability; you be come response-able.
Changes happen when we connect to how we feel and then take 100% responsibility for it.
Take yourself from victim to victor.
Would you like to know more about Free Flo Living? Find out here.
Is this Fear or Excitement?
Feeling excitement is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Excitement is predictable fear.
What is fear? What is excitement?
Is it fear or excitement?
Emotion: a strong feeling
E-motion: energy in motion
Excitement is predictable fear.
Pretty much the same physiological process is at work in your body during excitement or fear except, when you are excited it activates the reward centre of your brain at the same time.
Everything that you feel is emotion (or E-motion) . What does that mean?
The Latin derivative for the word emotion, emotere, literally means energy in motion.
You were born with a sixth sense–emotion.
Like your other five senses, this is not something you learned; emotion is the awareness you have which communicates satisfaction or dissatisfaction/ease or dis-ease.
Pivot point: Your emotions are your unique internal guidance system (Inner GPS), letting you know when you have disconnected from your inner knowing of what is right for you.
Picture this scenario:
A child is visiting the fairground for the first time. All around him, he sees these incredible rides. It is so new and exciting. They get to the big wheel; it looks enormous. It is going round and round so fast. It is very high. All those people looking down on him seem so far away. As they approach the ticket gate, he feels something in his belly, a strange feeling. It is a strong feeling, different from anything he has ever felt in his 5 young years.
His mother, sensing the change in him, grips his hand tighter and says it’s ok, don’t feel scared. I am right by your side. I am keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m scared. So, this is how fear feels.
Another child is standing close by. He has the same sensations and feelings when he is looking at this gigantic wheel. His mother senses the change in him too, and as he grasps her hand, she looks at him and says, this is going to be so exciting for you, a new experience, and I am right by your side, keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m excited. So, this is what it feels like to be excited.
Both these children will have a unique experience during the ride, and they will associate the feeling they have in different ways throughout their life.
This example may seem too simplistic for many of you. Yet when you understand how your feelings and emotions affect your body, you can see that this kind of experience, especially as a child, can have a profound effect on your life.
Pivot point: Feeling excited is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Are you killing the thrill?
If you would like to discuss it, feel free to contact me here.
Think for a minute. When you cut yourself, do you worry that it will keep bleeding out and not heal? Usually, the answer to that will be no-we know that in a healthy body, the blood will clot and the cut will heal.
When you break a bone, sometimes you need to have it "set" so it heals properly. The doctor will align the bone to make sure it knits together optimally, but the body does the healing. If you leave the bone misaligned, it will still knit together and heal.
The trick is to know when you need to give your body a bit of help.
Some of the times when you need to help your body are:
In a nutshell, what happens is whenever you get some kind of attack your immune system kicks in to defend you. It has three lines of defence (soldiers) that keep your body safe. Your body is very clever.
History: study of past events
Hi: greeting, informal
Story: an account of something real or imaginary, usually narrated for entertainment or information
What is your Hi Story?
Your Hi-story is how you identify (with) yourself.
It is your personal history (story), which is made up of the experiences you have had and the memories you have of them throughout your life.
Whenever we meet someone new, we ask questions to find out more about them.
How do you tell someone new about you? The words you use are so powerful, especially when they have an emotional connection.
Every time you tell your story, you are updating it in your mind. It's like updating your software on your computer.
'Software update required.'
'Please wait while we install the latest updates.'
Updates are about reviewing and changing any outdated features.
Everyone who has a digital device has seen these messages. Without the update, the device may not run efficiently. It is necessary to turn the device on, agree to the update, and then the device will shut down and restart. Most people will have agreed to automatic updates or will install them immediately, after all we want our devices to work efficiently.
How often do you apply the same analogy to your life?
The world is ever evolving, change is the only constant.
As a human being, you are adaptogenic; however, when you do not update your belief system and preferences with who you have become, it can overwhelm you. if it does not feel good, it creates conflict within.
I have news for you-
Every time you remember something, good or bad, you are saying "Hi-Story," and you strengthen the connection, you update it, like the software on your computer.
If you are not happy with the way your life is going, have a look at your Hi-Story, you may find it very revealing.
If you would like more information, you can contact me here.
Linda Ledwidge -
Qualified General Nurse
Certified Practioner Level IV
Emotion Code Certified