What is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
If you look up the meaning of self-awareness, it says - "conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings." It says nothing about how to deal with it when you dislike what you become aware of.
In today's world, I believe that self-awareness is recognising how you feel and accepting that you are the only one who can change it.
To grow, you must accept 100% responsibility, and then you can take back your power. If you do not know yourself, your beliefs, your dreams, your strengths, and your weaknesses, you cannot do that. When you have access to how you feel on an emotional level and recognise how it affects your beliefs and therefore your actions, it is transformational.
As a life coach, the greatest gift we offer our clients is the space, encouragement, and support to find the connection to their emotions. We can then support self-awareness and self-empowerment.
Too often self-awareness advocates focus on looking inward and ignoring the external environment.
It is important to acknowledge both internal and external awareness because self-awareness encompasses both.
When you begin your journey into awareness and take stock of how you feel about your situations and environment, it opens you up to so many things that you did not notice before. Using your five senses to experience fully how the environment you see, hear, smell, touch, and taste translates internally to your sixth sense (your emotions) is the key to self-awareness. Taking this holistic view allows you to connect to self-awareness and relate to your situations and environment, knowing what is right for you, and how to deal with what you feel is not right for you.
Connecting to every experience and every situation and then looking inward to your feelings, your beliefs, and then your reactions to your world enable true self-awareness. By making how you feel your number 1 priority, no matter what, you become truly self-aware.
The road to self-awareness leads to letting go of all self-judgements and self-expectations; it means giving yourself a break, in the same way you would for a friend or loved one, be kind to yourself, and accept who you are, warts and all.
Many people believe they are more self-aware than they are because they find it challenging to be honest with themselves. It's easier to ignore those feelings of guilt, shame, and unworthiness than to look deep inside and take responsibility for them. The best way to develop self-awareness is to take time to connect to how you feel and accept that it's ok to feel whatever it is and it's also ok to change it when you are ready. When you become adept at connecting to your inner emotional state, you may find there are many times when you dislike what you feel, you then have the power to change it.
Look at your beliefs, your strengths, and your weaknesses. If you are self-aware, you will instinctively know how you feel about anything and if it is right for you. You, and only you, know what you need, what will work for you, and what will not.
When you are undecided it is ok for you to pause and connect to that inner knowing, then to choose if, and when the right time is for you.
So, what is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
It is connecting to how you feel and being ok with whatever that is in the knowledge that you have control. We become empowered.
Whatever you are doing today, enjoy, have fun, and feel good!
#FreeFloLiving #KeepItSuperSimple #RedressStress
If anyone had asked me about the "C" word in 2019, I would have replied that I did not use that word, and please do not use it in my company. Today in 2021, I say the same even though I know it's not the same word they referred to in 2019, and it is the hot topic in all conversations, therefore unavoidable most days, so I had to find a way to live with it and stay sane and healthy.
The thing about the "C" word is that it causes so much anxiety, defensiveness, separation, and hopelessness in so many. This, in turn, leads to tension and stress.
When medical research estimates as much as 90 percent of illness and disease is stress-related, it makes sense to avoid unnecessary stress.
How to do that in today's environment?
What if there was a way?
What if I told you that you had all the tools you needed to relieve and redress stress?
You were born with these tools.
You do not need to go out and buy them.
All you have to do is identify them, access them, and unleash them.
Would you want to know more?
Find out how free flo living can help you to to restore your body´s natural equilibrium -leading to optimal health & wellness.
Contact me here.
Or read my new book Redress Stress http://getbook.at/Redress-stress
It will keep you afloat and moving in 2021.
You can choose to leave it on the beach for now or you can grab it with both hands, your choice.
As you move along in 2021, you will encounter driftwood and debris from 2020 and before. It will come in all shapes and sizes;
Your lifebuoy will help you navigate around and away from it.
If you take the time to look, you will see the beauty and the Joy surrounding you.
It is not disguised although the driftwood and debris can make it difficult to see clearly.
It looks like this
At times it will be a challenge to avoid the debris, and that's ok.
When you feel overwhelmed by it all, I offer a hand of support
Remember, you will enjoy the journey better if you talk, share, smile, and laugh together. Together we share strength and hope.
May you, your family and friends be Blessed With an Awesome Year Ahead.
Live, Love & Laugh!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
There is so much information out there, I don't know about you, however; I feel that it's utterly overwhelming at times.
How do we make sense of any of it?
When I am looking for advice...what constitutes an expert?
How do I manage to reconcile what seems logical to me with information and / or recommendations from the powers that be or the experts, which does not seem logical to me?
All of these questions have been going round and round in my head at various times in the last few months (well, to be honest, probably all of my life!)
I have a very clear and simple way to get myself out of the overwhelm state and clarify what is the right thing for me.
It´s called Free Flo Living.
Now I am not saying that it always works first time, or that I always go to it right away.
There are times where, it seems, I like to torture myself a bit, you know, amp up the stress, feed the fear monkey. Anyone empathise with that?
Over the years, though, I have worked at finding out what works for me. I had to, or in all honesty, I would not be sitting here writing this.
What I have discovered is that I am " my expert", YOU are "your expert".
We all know instinctively what is true for us / right for us.
We have an inner knowing that many do not trust because over time it has been contradicted and over-powered by our environment.
We are born with this powerful tool and from our early years are taught to ignore it in favour of people who know better/more than us and, we are told, know better.
Babies come into this world and they are love.
They let us know what they want, when they are happy and when they are not, and they cannot talk yet!
They are the centre of the universe, theirs and the people around them.
Normally, no one judges a baby; no one has any expectations of a baby (except that he/she will sleep, eat, cry, and poop!) There may be expectations of responsibility on the parents but not on the baby.
Then the baby becomes an infant/toddler, and that is when the judgments and expectations begin. There are growth and development markers to meet. Parents feel under pressure and that transfers to the infant/toddler.
Oh yes, and then the infant/toddler grows into a child, and there are even more influences in their environment. School, religion, new friends of their own.
As the child becomes a teenager, the environment changes again, and there are even more influences.
They are now aware of independence, responsibility
and choices and oh, it was so much simpler to be a baby, wasn´t it.
And here we are , all grown up, adults. How did that happen so quickly?
We have control over our own life, don´t we?
We can do whatever we want, can´t we?
Why then do so many people (grown-ups) feel limited, unfulfilled, and unhappy?
Why do so many people feel as though they have no choice and no control?
Simply put, because we do not connect to that inner knowing, we do do not allow ourself to trust that we know best, that we are our own expert.
We all need love, support and connection.
We all need to be able to get advice and knowledge from different perspectives, its how we figure out what works for us.
No one knows everything, and yet, we all know everything; everything that we need to know. We know what makes us happy and what does not.
There are things that happen to us and around us that we have no control over BUT we always have control over how we feel; how we react and respond to anyone and everything.
When you decide to make how you feel the most important thing in your life, you take responsibility; you have response-ability; you be come response-able.
Changes happen when we connect to how we feel and then take 100% responsibility for it.
Take yourself from victim to victor.
Would you like to know more about Free Flo Living? Find out here.
Is this Fear or Excitement?
Feeling excitement is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Excitement is predictable fear.
What is fear? What is excitement?
Is it fear or excitement?
Emotion: a strong feeling
E-motion: energy in motion
Excitement is predictable fear.
Pretty much the same physiological process is at work in your body during excitement or fear except, when you are excited it activates the reward centre of your brain at the same time.
Everything that you feel is emotion (or E-motion) . What does that mean?
The Latin derivative for the word emotion, emotere, literally means energy in motion.
You were born with a sixth sense–emotion.
Like your other five senses, this is not something you learned; emotion is the awareness you have which communicates satisfaction or dissatisfaction/ease or dis-ease.
Pivot point: Your emotions are your unique internal guidance system (Inner GPS), letting you know when you have disconnected from your inner knowing of what is right for you.
Picture this scenario:
A child is visiting the fairground for the first time. All around him, he sees these incredible rides. It is so new and exciting. They get to the big wheel; it looks enormous. It is going round and round so fast. It is very high. All those people looking down on him seem so far away. As they approach the ticket gate, he feels something in his belly, a strange feeling. It is a strong feeling, different from anything he has ever felt in his 5 young years.
His mother, sensing the change in him, grips his hand tighter and says it’s ok, don’t feel scared. I am right by your side. I am keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m scared. So, this is how fear feels.
Another child is standing close by. He has the same sensations and feelings when he is looking at this gigantic wheel. His mother senses the change in him too, and as he grasps her hand, she looks at him and says, this is going to be so exciting for you, a new experience, and I am right by your side, keeping you safe. Oh, he thinks, I’m excited. So, this is what it feels like to be excited.
Both these children will have a unique experience during the ride, and they will associate the feeling they have in different ways throughout their life.
This example may seem too simplistic for many of you. Yet when you understand how your feelings and emotions affect your body, you can see that this kind of experience, especially as a child, can have a profound effect on your life.
Pivot point: Feeling excited is feeling fear with a KNOWN outcome.
Are you killing the thrill?
If you would like to discuss it, feel free to contact me here.
Linda Ledwidge -
Qualified General Nurse
Certified Practioner Level IV
Emotion Code Certified