What is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
If you look up the meaning of self-awareness, it says - "conscious knowledge of one's own character and feelings." It says nothing about how to deal with it when you dislike what you become aware of.
In today's world, I believe that self-awareness is recognising how you feel and accepting that you are the only one who can change it.
To grow, you must accept 100% responsibility, and then you can take back your power. If you do not know yourself, your beliefs, your dreams, your strengths, and your weaknesses, you cannot do that. When you have access to how you feel on an emotional level and recognise how it affects your beliefs and therefore your actions, it is transformational.
As a life coach, the greatest gift we offer our clients is the space, encouragement, and support to find the connection to their emotions. We can then support self-awareness and self-empowerment.
Too often self-awareness advocates focus on looking inward and ignoring the external environment.
It is important to acknowledge both internal and external awareness because self-awareness encompasses both.
When you begin your journey into awareness and take stock of how you feel about your situations and environment, it opens you up to so many things that you did not notice before. Using your five senses to experience fully how the environment you see, hear, smell, touch, and taste translates internally to your sixth sense (your emotions) is the key to self-awareness. Taking this holistic view allows you to connect to self-awareness and relate to your situations and environment, knowing what is right for you, and how to deal with what you feel is not right for you.
Connecting to every experience and every situation and then looking inward to your feelings, your beliefs, and then your reactions to your world enable true self-awareness. By making how you feel your number 1 priority, no matter what, you become truly self-aware.
The road to self-awareness leads to letting go of all self-judgements and self-expectations; it means giving yourself a break, in the same way you would for a friend or loved one, be kind to yourself, and accept who you are, warts and all.
Many people believe they are more self-aware than they are because they find it challenging to be honest with themselves. It's easier to ignore those feelings of guilt, shame, and unworthiness than to look deep inside and take responsibility for them. The best way to develop self-awareness is to take time to connect to how you feel and accept that it's ok to feel whatever it is and it's also ok to change it when you are ready. When you become adept at connecting to your inner emotional state, you may find there are many times when you dislike what you feel, you then have the power to change it.
Look at your beliefs, your strengths, and your weaknesses. If you are self-aware, you will instinctively know how you feel about anything and if it is right for you. You, and only you, know what you need, what will work for you, and what will not.
When you are undecided it is ok for you to pause and connect to that inner knowing, then to choose if, and when the right time is for you.
So, what is self-awareness, and what do we gain from it?
It is connecting to how you feel and being ok with whatever that is in the knowledge that you have control. We become empowered.
Whatever you are doing today, enjoy, have fun, and feel good!
#FreeFloLiving #KeepItSuperSimple #RedressStress
There is so much information out there, I don't know about you, however; I feel that it's utterly overwhelming at times.
How do we make sense of any of it?
When I am looking for advice...what constitutes an expert?
How do I manage to reconcile what seems logical to me with information and / or recommendations from the powers that be or the experts, which does not seem logical to me?
All of these questions have been going round and round in my head at various times in the last few months (well, to be honest, probably all of my life!)
I have a very clear and simple way to get myself out of the overwhelm state and clarify what is the right thing for me.
It´s called Free Flo Living.
Now I am not saying that it always works first time, or that I always go to it right away.
There are times where, it seems, I like to torture myself a bit, you know, amp up the stress, feed the fear monkey. Anyone empathise with that?
Over the years, though, I have worked at finding out what works for me. I had to, or in all honesty, I would not be sitting here writing this.
What I have discovered is that I am " my expert", YOU are "your expert".
We all know instinctively what is true for us / right for us.
We have an inner knowing that many do not trust because over time it has been contradicted and over-powered by our environment.
We are born with this powerful tool and from our early years are taught to ignore it in favour of people who know better/more than us and, we are told, know better.
Babies come into this world and they are love.
They let us know what they want, when they are happy and when they are not, and they cannot talk yet!
They are the centre of the universe, theirs and the people around them.
Normally, no one judges a baby; no one has any expectations of a baby (except that he/she will sleep, eat, cry, and poop!) There may be expectations of responsibility on the parents but not on the baby.
Then the baby becomes an infant/toddler, and that is when the judgments and expectations begin. There are growth and development markers to meet. Parents feel under pressure and that transfers to the infant/toddler.
Oh yes, and then the infant/toddler grows into a child, and there are even more influences in their environment. School, religion, new friends of their own.
As the child becomes a teenager, the environment changes again, and there are even more influences.
They are now aware of independence, responsibility
and choices and oh, it was so much simpler to be a baby, wasn´t it.
And here we are , all grown up, adults. How did that happen so quickly?
We have control over our own life, don´t we?
We can do whatever we want, can´t we?
Why then do so many people (grown-ups) feel limited, unfulfilled, and unhappy?
Why do so many people feel as though they have no choice and no control?
Simply put, because we do not connect to that inner knowing, we do do not allow ourself to trust that we know best, that we are our own expert.
We all need love, support and connection.
We all need to be able to get advice and knowledge from different perspectives, its how we figure out what works for us.
No one knows everything, and yet, we all know everything; everything that we need to know. We know what makes us happy and what does not.
There are things that happen to us and around us that we have no control over BUT we always have control over how we feel; how we react and respond to anyone and everything.
When you decide to make how you feel the most important thing in your life, you take responsibility; you have response-ability; you be come response-able.
Changes happen when we connect to how we feel and then take 100% responsibility for it.
Take yourself from victim to victor.
Would you like to know more about Free Flo Living? Find out here.
Are you on stand by?
We all know what stand by is, don´t we. The television is on stand by, ready to pop on at the touch of a button, the computer is on stand by to save us having to wait for it to load when we want to use it and we go on stand by ready to fly when there is a seat available.
Have you noticed how much of your life you spend on stand by?
For our body that stand by state is when the mind and body are disconnected. The communication is interrupted. When the mind and the body are connected and in harmony, the body uses its own innate intelligence to self-heal, self medicate and regenerate. When our body is functioning optimally our mind and body work together to maintain the delicate balance that is necessary for health and happiness. There is a connection that flows between the mind and the body, an energetic connection as well as a physical one.
We all know that our body needs the flow of blood and oxygen to function, don´t we? What most people do not realise is that we also have an energy flow. It's a bit like an electric current. Just because we cannot see electricity doesn´t mean it's not there. We rely on it every day, we know that if there is a disconnection in the circuit the electricity will not flow and we will have no power. Our body works in the same way, with our energy flow. Our energy flow responds to how we FEEL. As soon as we feel in any way "negative" our energy flow becomes disrupted, our body goes into stress mode, we disconnect and go into "stand by". In order to function optimally we have to reconnect that supply............and its easy!
FasterEFT is a powerful tool that helps us to reconnect, easily and quickly restoring the mind/body connection and allowing us to switch back on.
FasterEFT (or tapping) works by tapping on the body´s acupoints. By doing this we are telling the subconscious mind that we are safe, this means that the stress hormones are replaced by the relaxation hormones. We can now operate from a relaxed point of view and with clarity..............and most importantly this gets you out of the way and allows the body to do what it does naturally, which is, self-heal, self-medicate and regenerate.
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For most of us when we find out that we are expecting a baby, it is a wonderfully happy and exciting time. It is, after all, one of life´s miracles.
Throughout the pregnancy we watch the development week by week and marvel at the changes in our body as our baby grows inside us.
One of the most important developments is the Sphenoid bone.
The Sphenoid bone is a complex structure and is thought to be the first bone formed in a growing baby. It is connected to every other bone in the skull and , through the lining of the brain, to every vertebrae in the spine. Through this awesome connection the Sphenoid has an effect on every system of the body.
The Sphenoid bone sits behind the eyes and is shaped like a butterfly. The alignment of the Sphenoid bone reflects the alignment of the rest of the body.
When the Sphenoid bone is out of balance or twisted it is known as "core distortion".
It appears that we are all born with a degree of core distortion and this has been found to be the cause of many illnesses and dis-ease.
I recommend that everyone has Sphenoid realignment and that all babies have the Sphenoid checked and realigned as soon after birth as possible.
I will ask for a full picture of what the pregnancy and the labour was like , because even prior to birth, events, environment and the health of the mother can impact on the growing baby. How was the baby lying in the womb? Were there any issues for the baby during the pregnancy? Did mum suffer from sickness or high blood pressure?
Sometimes before or during labour the obstetrician may decide that there is a need to induce or assist the delivery for the safety of the Mother and the baby. Did you have a normal delivery? or forceps or vacuum delivery? Was your labour induced? Did you have an epidural? Planned or emergency caesarean section? The labour and delivery can potentially cause dysfunction in the early days or weeks for the baby.
Your baby has quite an adventure during the pregnancy and the birth process and every birth is unique, as is every baby.
The baby´s head , due to the joints of the skull, is designed to move in whatever way is necessary to allow the baby through the birth canal. When you think of a forceps or suction delivery or a caesarean section you can see that these methods could have a negative effect on the baby´s alignment.
The nerves that initiate digestion, elimination, sucking and swallowing reflexes may be compromised during normal delivery as well as during these procedures. Two of the most frequent causes of discomfort for a baby are colic and constipation.
Sphenoid realignment may benefit:
It is recommended that all newborns receive a core distortion evaluation as soon as possible. You can plan for your newborn to be seen during the first 24 hours after birth or as soon as any issues are noticed.
In the first years of life your child is learning to crawl, stand, walk and run. There may be many bumps and falls and these may result in twists and injury to the skeleton. When the Sphenoid is in alignment it is much easier for the body to heal and fall back into balance.
Plan check-up visits when the baby is one month, three months, 6 months, 1 year and 2 years old to make sure there is normal structural growth.
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Linda Ledwidge -
Qualified General Nurse
Certified Practioner Level IV
Emotion Code Certified
Certified Life Coach